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The Body as an Archive: Notes from a Settler Therapist's Practice
On what the body carries from ancestry and culture, and how Dr. Roger Kuhn's Somacultural Liberation has shaped one settler therapist's practice. A first-person reflection on inheritance, humility, and the limits of extracting technique from its roots.
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Therapy That Fits an Autistic Nervous System: What to Notice Going In
On finding therapy that fits an autistic nervous system. What to notice in yourself, what to ask for, and what not to override. A first-person reflection from Clayre, with a nod to Steph Jones's frank and funny Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy.
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The Quiet Part of Gender Exploration: How to Listen Before You Know
On the early, quiet part of gender exploration, before any declaration or certainty. A first-person reflection from Clayre on what to notice, how to listen, and why the question itself counts, with a nod to Oakley Phoenix's accessible companion guide The Gender Friend.
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Pleasure in a Trans Body: What Becomes Possible Beyond Survival
On gender-pleasure, intimate embodiment, and what becomes possible when a trans body is allowed to be information, not only a problem to solve. A first-person reflection from Clayre on Lucie Fielding's second edition of Trans Sex, and what feeling good can open.
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Regulate, Relate, and Reason: What Helps When Words Aren't Landing
When someone is overwhelmed, reasoning doesn't land, because biology takes the thinking brain offline. A look at regulate, relate, reason: the sequence that helps, whether you're trying to reach someone you love or come back to yourself.
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Relationship Therapy in BC and Online in Canada for Open, CNM, and Poly Partners
Relationship therapy for open, CNM, and poly partners in Canada. We hold the whole configuration: partners, metamours, the structure itself. Non-monogamy isn't the problem, and we won't coach you back to monogamy.
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When Explaining Non-Binary Gets Tiring: On Visibility, Rest, and What Helps
Being non-binary and exhausted is a real, shared experience. The weight of constant translation, education, and being read by others has a name. Some thoughts on the tiredness, and what might help.
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Chosen Family: The Belonging You Build
Chosen family is often talked about as pure celebration. The truth is more textured. A grounded look at the grief, the care, the labour, and what helps when you're building belonging from the ground up.
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Supporting Partner Through Gender Transition: What You Might Be Carrying Too
When your partner is transitioning, love and grief can show up together. That isn't disloyalty. Some reflections for the partner who's also carrying something, and isn't sure where to put it.