Introduction: The Evolution of Trans Rights and the Inclusion of Nonbinary Identities
In the early days of the transgender rights movement, many advocates, myself included, faced a stark reality: the fight was focused primarily on gaining basic recognition for trans women and trans men. There was a pervasive belief that nonbinary identities were “too much” for the general public to comprehend or accept. Phrases like “That’s too far for the public to wrap their heads (and their votes) around” or “Nobody understands them” echoed throughout advocacy circles, often pushing nonbinary people further into the margins. At the time, the overwhelming priority was to achieve visibility and legitimacy for binary trans identities, with many fearing that expanding the conversation to include nonbinary identities would only add confusion and hinder progress.
Yet, as we reflect on the progress made over the years, we can see how far we’ve come. Today, there is a much broader and more nuanced understanding of gender, recognizing that it exists on a spectrum rather than being confined to the male-female binary. However, this shift has not been easy or linear. While strides have been made toward the acceptance of nonbinary identities, we still face significant challenges as we work toward full inclusion, understanding, and liberation. For every step forward, there remain pockets of resistance, ignorance, and exclusion.
My personal journey reflects this evolving landscape. I came out as a trans woman years ago, and while that was a significant step in my life, my understanding of my gender has continued to evolve. Today, I identify more specifically as genderflux femme or girlflux, embracing the fluidity of my identity. What once felt like rigid labels—male or female—have become more flexible and expansive, allowing me to embrace an evolving sense of self that feels more authentic. Coming to terms with this fluidity has been both liberating and affirming, and it has deepened my connection to the broader nonbinary and trans communities.
This blog post is an invitation to recognize, name, and celebrate nonbinary gender identities. It’s also a call to understand the evolving nature of language, identity, and expression, as well as the ways in which these elements intersect with our lived experiences. As we explore these concepts together, I want to honour the individuals—past and present—who have paved the way for this understanding and continue to push the boundaries of what it means to live authentically and freely. Their courage, resilience, and refusal to be erased are what allow us to envision a future where all gender identities are respected, celebrated, and fully included in the fabric of society.
Recognizing and Naming Nonbinary Identities: Reclaiming Visibility
Nonbinary identities have always existed, but it is only in recent years that they have begun to gain wider recognition in mainstream society. For centuries, the rigid confines of the gender binary have left little room for those who do not fit neatly into the categories of “male” or “female.” Yet, nonbinary people have always been here, living their truths, even if the language to name and describe their experiences wasn’t always available.
For many, the act of naming their gender identity is more than just a personal revelation—it is a powerful and affirming step in reclaiming visibility. Terms like nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, and genderflux give voice to experiences that transcend the binary, providing individuals with a sense of validation and community. This process of naming one’s identity becomes a declaration, a way of saying, “I exist, and my experience is real.”
Rajunov and Duane (2019) remind us that naming our identities is not just a matter of semantics; it is an act of power and visibility (p. 20). By giving language to nonbinary experiences, we affirm that these identities are legitimate, real, and worthy of recognition. This is particularly significant in a world that often seeks to erase or invalidate the existence of those who do not conform to binary gender norms.
Personally, embracing my identity as genderflux femme has been transformative. It has allowed me to connect more deeply with myself and with others who share this fluid experience of gender. The term “genderflux” reflects the ebb and flow of my gender identity, a recognition that my experience of femininity shifts over time. Some days, I feel strongly connected to my femme identity; other days, it feels more distant. But it is always there, a core part of who I am, even as it fluctuates. Naming this experience has given me not only validation but also a profound sense of belonging to a larger community of individuals whose gender identities are fluid and dynamic.
In many ways, the process of naming nonbinary identities is also about challenging the constraints of a binary system that has historically marginalized and erased those who exist outside of it. By claiming terms like nonbinary, genderfluid, or genderqueer, individuals push back against societal norms that insist gender is rigid and fixed. They create space for a broader, more inclusive understanding of gender, one that reflects the diversity of human experiences.
Moreover, naming one’s gender is not a one-time event. For many nonbinary individuals, the process is ongoing, evolving as they continue to explore and understand their identities. Language itself is fluid, much like gender, and the words we use to describe ourselves may change over time as our understanding of who we are deepens. This fluidity is not a weakness or a source of confusion; it is a testament to the complexity and richness of nonbinary identities.
As we continue to push for greater recognition and understanding of nonbinary identities, it is crucial to honour the importance of naming. It is through this process that individuals find the words to express who they are, gain visibility in a world that often tries to render them invisible, and build connections with others who share similar experiences.
The Evolving Nature of Language and Identity: A Reflection of Our Growth
Language is not static; it evolves with us, expanding and adapting as our understanding of the world deepens. For nonbinary people, language plays a particularly crucial role in navigating and expressing their identities. In a society that has long insisted on a strict male-female binary, the development of terms like nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, and genderflux has opened up space for individuals to articulate the nuances of their gender experiences in ways that resonate more deeply with who they are.
There was a time, not so long ago, when terms like genderqueer or nonbinary were not part of mainstream discourse. When many of us first began our journeys, the available language felt insufficient, and often, we were left struggling to explain our identities in a framework that didn’t have the words for our experiences. It’s difficult to express the full complexity of your identity when the language hasn’t yet caught up with the reality of who you are. But as our collective understanding of gender has grown, so too has our vocabulary. These new words and phrases allow for a more nuanced, compassionate, and inclusive understanding of gender that reflects the diversity of human experience.
Cordoba (2023) highlights how linguistic flexibility is key in helping nonbinary individuals articulate their identities, which are often fluid and evolving (p. 34). This flexibility is essential because, for many of us, gender isn’t a fixed point on a map; it’s a journey that shifts and changes over time. Discovering language that better reflected my experience—first as a trans woman, and later as genderflux femme—was like finding a missing piece of myself. The words didn’t just describe my identity; they helped me understand and embrace it. Language gave me a sense of freedom, allowing me to express myself with clarity and confidence in ways I hadn’t been able to before.
This evolution of language also serves as a tool of liberation. The words we use to describe our identities are not mere labels—they are declarations of who we are. They challenge societal norms and demand recognition for experiences that have long been marginalized or misunderstood. When we name our identities, we carve out space for ourselves in a world that often tries to confine us within narrow, predefined categories.
For nonbinary people, language can also be a powerful tool for connection. When we find the right words to describe our identities, we often find others who share similar experiences, building communities of support, understanding, and solidarity. The language we use becomes a bridge, allowing us to connect with others who may be on similar journeys, fostering a sense of belonging that is vital in a world where many nonbinary individuals still face misunderstanding and exclusion.
Moreover, the fluidity of language mirrors the fluidity of gender itself. Just as our understanding of gender can evolve, so too can the language we use to express it. For many nonbinary individuals, the words that feel right today may change tomorrow, as their relationship with their identity continues to grow and develop. This is not a sign of uncertainty or indecision; it is a reflection of the richness and complexity of gender. Language, like identity, is a living thing—it grows, it shifts, and it adapts.
For me, the discovery of the term genderflux felt like a revelation. It encapsulated the ebb and flow of my gender identity, recognizing that my connection to femininity shifts over time, without invalidating any aspect of who I am. Some days, I feel deeply connected to my femme identity, while on other days, that connection feels lighter. The beauty of language like genderflux is that it allows for this fluidity without requiring me to box myself into rigid definitions.
As we continue to explore and expand our understanding of gender, we must also embrace the evolving nature of language. It is through this evolution that we find new ways to express, validate, and celebrate the diversity of identities that exist beyond the binary. Language is not only a tool for understanding ourselves but also a vehicle for liberation—a way to assert our existence in a world that is still learning to recognize the full spectrum of human experience.
A Journey of Discovery: Celebrating the Fluidity of Gender
For many of us, coming out is often framed as a singular moment—a bold declaration of who we are to the world. But the truth is that coming out, especially when it comes to gender identity, is rarely a one-time event. It is part of a much larger journey of discovery, reflection, and self-acceptance. For me, coming out as a trans woman wasn’t just about announcing my identity; it was about realizing that my feelings weren’t isolated. They were shared by others. I was part of a community that had walked similar paths, navigating the complexities of identity and expression.
Many trans femme individuals, like myself, start their journey within the framework of binary gender identities. We are told we must choose between two options: male or female. At the time, coming out as a trans woman felt like a revelation—it was the closest language I had to describe what I was feeling. But as I grew into my identity and explored it further, I realized that this binary understanding didn’t fully capture the nuances of my experience. My gender is far more fluid and complex than I initially understood.
As Dea (2023) points out, gender is not a destination but a journey—one that is often characterized by discovery, growth, and evolution (p. 60). For those of us who identify outside the binary, this journey can feel both liberating and challenging. It requires us to unlearn the societal norms that have been imposed upon us and to embrace the fluidity of our own experiences. My journey from identifying as a trans woman to genderflux femme is one example of how our understanding of gender can evolve over time, as we become more attuned to our inner selves and the language that resonates with our experiences.
This blog post is not just about celebrating nonbinary identities; it’s about recognizing that the fluid nature of gender applies to all people. Whether you identify as nonbinary, genderfluid, or within the binary, gender is not a fixed or static part of who we are. It ebbs and flows, shifting over time as we encounter new experiences, relationships, and understandings of ourselves. Our identities are dynamic, and the beauty of this fluidity lies in its ability to capture the richness and diversity of human experience.
For me, recognizing that my gender is fluid, rather than fixed, has been one of the most freeing aspects of my journey. There is no pressure to fit into a rigid box or to remain stagnant in my identity. Instead, I am able to embrace the ebbs and flows of my gender expression, allowing it to evolve naturally over time. Some days, I feel more deeply connected to my femininity, while on other days, I might feel a lighter connection to that aspect of myself. This fluidity doesn’t invalidate my identity—it enriches it.
The experience of discovering and naming one’s gender, especially when it falls outside the binary, can be incredibly validating. For many nonbinary and gender-nonconforming individuals, this journey of discovery is about more than just personal growth; it’s about reclaiming agency over how we define ourselves. It’s about moving beyond the constraints of societal expectations and allowing ourselves the freedom to explore who we are without fear of judgment.
This journey is ongoing, and for many, it will continue throughout their lives. Our identities may shift as we grow older, as we encounter new communities, or as language itself evolves. And that’s okay. The fluidity of gender is something to be celebrated, not feared. It reflects the complexity of the human experience, and it allows us to connect more deeply with ourselves and with others who share similar experiences.
Whether you identify as nonbinary or simply want to better understand the full spectrum of gender identities, this exploration is a powerful reminder that none of us are fixed or static. We are all on a journey, and that journey is one of growth, change, and discovery. By embracing the fluidity of gender, we open ourselves up to new possibilities, new connections, and new ways of understanding both ourselves and the world around us.
Cultural and Historical Perspectives on Gender Diversity: Challenging the Binary
Nonbinary identities may appear new to some, particularly within Western contexts, but they have existed across cultures and centuries, long before modern understandings of gender took shape. Throughout history, many cultures have recognized and honoured individuals whose gender identities transcend the male-female binary, offering a far more expansive understanding of gender diversity than the rigid categories we often see today. These examples remind us that nonbinary identities are not an anomaly; they are a celebrated part of human existence.
Indigenous cultures in North America, for instance, have long recognized Two-Spirit people—individuals who embody both masculine and feminine qualities, or who move fluidly between genders. The Two-Spirit identity holds cultural, spiritual, and social significance, and these individuals are often seen as keepers of knowledge, healers, or mediators between worlds. The recognition of Two-Spirit people within Indigenous communities challenges the Western binary view of gender, offering a model of inclusivity and reverence for gender diversity that existed long before colonial frameworks imposed more rigid norms.
Similarly, hijras in South Asia have been an integral part of their cultural fabric for generations. Hijras, who do not fit neatly into the categories of male or female, have historically held important roles within religious and cultural ceremonies, particularly in Hinduism. Despite the marginalization they have faced due to British colonial rule and subsequent legal and social structures, hijras remain a powerful testament to the enduring presence of gender-diverse identities throughout history.
Dea (2023) notes that these examples of gender diversity across cultures challenge the Western binary understanding of gender, offering a much richer and more inclusive framework for recognizing and celebrating human experiences (p. 96). By looking at these histories, we see that gender diversity is not a new phenomenon—it is deeply woven into the fabric of human culture and has been recognized and valued in many societies long before contemporary discussions around gender identity emerged.
In fact, many cultures have multiple terms to describe gender-diverse individuals, reflecting a spectrum of identities that go beyond male and female. For example, in pre-colonial Mexico, the Zapotec people recognized muxes—individuals assigned male at birth who take on roles and identities traditionally associated with women. Muxes have been respected and embraced within Zapotec society, further illustrating the ways in which gender diversity has been acknowledged and valued across the world.
These cultural and historical perspectives remind us that the Western binary view of gender is not universal—it is a product of specific historical, social, and colonial contexts. The imposition of binary gender norms in many parts of the world came as a result of colonization, which sought to erase indigenous understandings of gender that were more fluid and inclusive. By acknowledging and honouring the rich traditions of gender diversity that exist across cultures, we can begin to dismantle the notion that nonbinary identities are “new” or “confusing.” Instead, we can recognize them as part of a long-standing, global legacy of gender variance.
It is also important to remember that many of these cultures faced (and continue to face) the erasure of their gender-diverse traditions through colonialism, oppression, and systemic marginalization. In reclaiming these histories, we not only honour the past but also create space for the future—a future where all gender identities can be recognized, celebrated, and respected.
By acknowledging these cultural and historical traditions of gender diversity, we broaden our understanding of what it means to express one’s gender. We can challenge the rigid constraints of the gender binary and celebrate the many ways in which people express their identities. This recognition allows us to move toward a more inclusive and affirming view of gender that honours the richness and diversity of the human experience.
The Role of Gender-Affirming Therapists in Supporting Nonbinary Identities: Compassionate Care for Complex Journeys
For many nonbinary individuals, having their identities affirmed by a therapist can be a life-changing experience. In a world that often fails to recognize or validate nonbinary identities, therapy can be one of the few spaces where individuals feel truly seen and heard. Gender-affirming therapy goes beyond traditional therapeutic practices by creating an environment where clients are empowered to explore their identities without fear of judgment. In this space, they are given the tools and support needed to come to terms with who they are, while being guided with compassion and respect.
One of the most significant challenges nonbinary people face is the constant invalidation of their identities by societal systems, institutions, and even within their personal relationships. For many, this erasure can lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression. Richards, Bouman, and Barker (2017) stress the importance of creating an inclusive and affirming therapeutic space for nonbinary clients, noting that these individuals often face unique challenges in a world that frequently erases or invalidates their existence (p. 103). As therapists, it is essential to acknowledge these challenges and actively work to counteract them within the therapeutic space.
Gender-affirming therapists must do more than simply recognize nonbinary identities; they must also understand the nuances of nonbinary experiences and create a space where clients feel safe to explore their gender identity at their own pace. This is particularly important because nonbinary individuals may be navigating complex emotions and experiences related to gender, including internalized transphobia, societal pressure to conform to the binary, and the fluidity of their own identity over time.
A core aspect of gender-affirming therapy is validation. Many nonbinary individuals have spent years, or even decades, questioning their identities and struggling to find language to express who they are. When a therapist offers genuine validation—affirming the client’s experience without question—it can be profoundly healing. This validation helps to counteract the pervasive messages of erasure that many nonbinary people encounter in their daily lives, offering a space where they can begin to rebuild a sense of self-worth and confidence in their identity.
Another important element of gender-affirming therapy is curiosity and openness. Nonbinary identities are diverse, and no two clients will have the exact same experience. As such, therapists must approach their work with a sense of curiosity, allowing the client to lead the conversation and share their experiences without prescriptive assumptions. Gender-affirming therapists do not impose a particular understanding of gender on their clients; instead, they co-create a space where clients can explore their identities on their own terms.
Therapists must also be mindful of the intersectional experiences that shape nonbinary clients’ lives. For many nonbinary individuals, their gender identity intersects with other aspects of their identity, such as race, class, ability, and sexual orientation. A nonbinary person of colour, for example, may face compounded experiences of discrimination that affect their mental health in ways that are distinct from a white nonbinary person. As therapists, it is our responsibility to take these intersections into account, recognizing how they shape the client’s experience of gender and the world around them.
In addition to providing emotional support, gender-affirming therapists can also offer practical guidance. For many nonbinary individuals, navigating healthcare, legal systems, or workplace environments can be incredibly daunting, particularly when these systems are not designed to accommodate gender diversity. Therapists can help clients develop strategies for navigating these spaces, offering support as they assert their identities in settings that may not always be affirming.
Ultimately, the role of a gender-affirming therapist is not to “solve” a client’s gender journey but to walk alongside them as they navigate it. As Richards et al. (2017) suggest, it is essential to offer a therapeutic relationship that honours the complexity of nonbinary experiences and provides an unwavering sense of support and affirmation (p. 105). By doing so, therapists not only help their clients navigate the challenges they face but also empower them to fully embrace their identities with confidence and pride.
In a world where nonbinary individuals are often erased or misunderstood, the work of gender-affirming therapists is crucial. We have the opportunity to create spaces where nonbinary clients can not only explore their identities but thrive in them, feeling validated, supported, and seen for who they truly are.
Recognizing Progress and Continuing the Fight for Liberation: Moving Beyond Acceptance
We have undoubtedly made progress in the fight for gender diversity and inclusion. There are more conversations happening now about nonbinary and genderqueer identities than ever before. Public figures, media representation, and social movements have helped push nonbinary experiences into the spotlight, allowing for greater visibility and acceptance. For many, this has opened doors to conversations that would have been unimaginable just a decade ago. In healthcare, education, and workplaces, there is an increasing understanding of the need for inclusivity when it comes to gender diversity.
However, it’s easy to become complacent. Once we gain a level of visibility or acceptance, there’s a temptation to believe the fight is over—that we’ve “won.” But the reality is far from this. While progress has been made, nonbinary and genderqueer individuals still face significant systemic barriers. From the lack of healthcare options that are sensitive to their needs, to the continual battle for legal recognition of nonbinary genders, the road to full liberation is still long and fraught with obstacles. Legal rights, while essential, are just one aspect of the broader fight for justice.
As Bornstein and Bergman (2010) argue, the fight for gender liberation isn’t just about gaining legal rights or public acceptance; it’s about fundamentally challenging the systems that erase, marginalize, and oppress those who don’t fit neatly within the binary (p. 45). It is not enough for society to simply allow nonbinary people to exist; we must work toward dismantling the structures that continue to enforce rigid definitions of gender. These structures often serve to reinforce a false notion of “normalcy,” where anything outside of the binary is treated as abnormal or other.
For many nonbinary individuals, healthcare access remains one of the most urgent and pervasive challenges. While trans healthcare has seen some improvements, nonbinary people often find themselves falling through the cracks, with healthcare providers unable or unwilling to offer services that accommodate their specific needs. This can range from a lack of understanding around hormone therapy for nonbinary individuals to the absence of gender-neutral language in medical forms and patient interactions. This lack of support can have profound effects, leaving nonbinary people without the care they need and further marginalizing them within an already vulnerable system.
Additionally, there is the ongoing fight for legal recognition. While some countries and regions have introduced legal options for nonbinary gender markers on identification documents, many parts of the world still do not recognize nonbinary identities at all. The denial of this recognition is more than just a bureaucratic issue—it is a form of erasure that tells nonbinary people their identities are not valid, that they do not exist within the frameworks society has built. This lack of legal recognition impacts everything from access to public services, to safety in daily life, to the ability to travel freely without fear of being misgendered or questioned at borders.
True liberation will come when nonbinary individuals no longer have to justify their existence or conform to narrow societal definitions of gender in order to be seen and respected. It will come when our systems—healthcare, legal, educational, and beyond—are designed not just to accommodate nonbinary individuals, but to affirm their experiences as equal and valid. We need a society where gender is understood as fluid, where everyone is free to express their identity without fear of discrimination, and where those outside the binary are celebrated, not merely tolerated.
We must also acknowledge that this fight for liberation is intersectional. Nonbinary individuals who are also people of colour, disabled, or part of other marginalized groups face compounded layers of discrimination and oppression. As we continue the fight for gender liberation, we must also advocate for the dismantling of all forms of systemic oppression, ensuring that those who live at the intersections of these identities are not left behind. This is not just about gender; it is about justice for all marginalized communities.
In the words of Bornstein and Bergman (2010), “true liberation is about challenging and dismantling the systems that perpetuate inequality, not simply carving out space within them” (p. 45). We are not fighting for a place within a broken system; we are fighting for the creation of new systems that honour and celebrate the diversity of human identity in all its forms.
The work is far from over, but by continuing to raise our voices, build community, and challenge oppressive structures, we move closer to a future where nonbinary and genderqueer individuals can live fully, freely, and without compromise.
Conclusion: Embracing Fluidity and Continuing the Journey
Gender is fluid, ever-evolving, and deeply personal. Each of us has a unique journey, shaped by our experiences, our culture, and our self-understanding. Whether you identify as nonbinary, genderflux, genderqueer, or something else entirely, your journey is valid, and it deserves to be celebrated. There is no single “correct” way to explore or express your gender; it is an ongoing process of self-discovery, one that is constantly shifting and growing as you move through life.
Rajunov and Duane (2019) remind us that gender exploration is not about finding a final answer or a fixed identity. It’s about embracing the journey itself—the twists, the turns, the fluidity that reflects the diversity of human experience (p. 48). This journey may take you in unexpected directions, but each step brings you closer to living your truth with authenticity and pride.
For some, this journey begins with a sense of discomfort or questioning—a feeling that the gender assigned at birth does not fully capture who they are. For others, it’s an ongoing exploration, with new revelations emerging as they encounter new communities, language, and experiences. Wherever you are on your journey, it is important to remember that there is no deadline or endpoint. Gender is not something to be “solved” but something to be lived and embraced in all its beautiful complexity.
This post has been an invitation—to continue exploring, to name and rename your identity as it evolves, and to celebrate the fluidity that is so often a part of gender. It’s a call to honour your experience, wherever you are on this path, and to recognize that you are not alone. Many others share in this journey of discovery, and together, we can build a world where all gender identities are respected, affirmed, and celebrated.
Take pride in the fluidity of your experience. Whether you are just beginning to explore your gender or have been on this path for years, your journey is an essential part of who you are. It is an expression of your authenticity, and it deserves to be honoured and celebrated—by you and by the world around you. As you continue this journey, may you find communities that affirm and uplift you, and may you embrace the evolving nature of your identity with compassion and curiosity.
The work of embracing gender fluidity is not just a personal one; it’s also collective. By sharing our stories, building supportive communities, and challenging societal norms, we are contributing to a broader movement toward greater understanding and acceptance of gender diversity. As we continue this journey, let us remember that we are all connected in the fight for liberation, authenticity, and the right to live as our true selves.
Let’s Continue the Conversation
If you are exploring your gender identity or supporting someone who is, I invite you to reach out. I offer peer consultations, individual therapy, and group discussions that provide a safe and affirming space for gender exploration. Let’s continue this important conversation—one that recognizes, affirms, and celebrates the beautiful diversity of gender beyond the binary.
References
Bornstein, K., & Bergman, S. B. (2010). Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. Seal Press.
Cordoba, S. (2023). Genderqueer and Non-Binary: Identity, Language, and Fluidity. Routledge.
Dea, S. (2023). Non-Binary Gender Identities: History, Culture, and Representation. Rowman and Littlefield.
Rajunov, M., & Duane, S. (2019). Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity. Columbia University Press.
Richards, C., Bouman, W. P., & Barker, M. J. (2017). Genderqueer and Non-Binary Genders. Palgrave Macmillan.
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